While snuggling in bed beside my husband, I spring up with a realization.
“I think this is our 7th Christmas.”
“Not yet,” my husband says, counting on his fingers. It’s easy for him to know from when to begin: 2004, and the 48 hour Christmas.
“You’re right,” he says, “It is 7.”
“You know how significant this is,” I say.
“Yes–And it’s the house ‘I’ built.”
7 years ago this December, Casey and I lived apart for the first time in 20 years. That November the boys and I moved to my sister’s in Florida so that he could devote every waking (and barely-waking) hour to finishing this house in time for Christmas (since he already missed Labor Day, Halloween and Thanksgiving.)
At midnight on December 22, he picked us up at the airport and we moved into our home–the first home that we have ever owned.
“This will be the house that I’ve lived in the longest,” I say, as I roll over to turn off the lamp at my bedside.
“And it’s the house ‘I’ built,” he says again, rolling to turn off his own lap.
We almost didn’t make it to 7 years. Back in 2008 when Casey was unemployed, he looked at some international teaching jobs–a prospect which was thrilling to me–but meant that I’d have to start over from scratch on the 7 year thing.
“I haven’t made it yet,” I say, settling back down into Casey’s arms. “It’s not Christmas yet, and I could die or the house could burn down or something.”
“Don’t say that kind of stuff,” Casey says, pushing me away.
The truth is that this is such an important milestone to me that I’m anxious about it. I felt this same fearful uncertainty before I left for England in my junior year, and then again before our first baby was born.
Sometimes the things we really want seem that impossible, especially when they’re so close to coming true.
I remember when Casey reached the 7 year mark with me. It was an important finish line for him–it meant he surpassed my first love. Though he’s now more than tripled that number, he still reminds me of his longevity–“Almost 4 times as long,” he says.
First love, first son, first house. They’re all so significant.
I don’t know what number home this is for me. I’d rather not count. As an Army brat who was born while her dad was still in college, I’ve had my share of moves and homes and schools
My own boys were born and raised in this same small town, attended the same small school, and grew up with the same kids that they played with at preschool. I was 14 when my parents finally settled down in one place.
That home had been the one that belonged to my grandparents, my beloved “6012.” But our time there was short. My parents divorced, and not only did we lose our family, but our home.
After that, I went to Europe three times, lived out West, moved back home, and then took off for these Green Mountains.
Our first place in Vermont was a tiny farm-house nestled beside a “babbling” brook, and seated at the foot of a mountain beside the National Forest. Both my boys were conceived there, and for seven years, it was our “home sweet home.”
When we left that rental, it was heartbreaking, but the time had come for us to set out on our own, and a few moves later, we were here–in the house that Casey built–with the help of his boys and all of our friends.
7 years ago this Christmas.
(Did I count right?)
Kelly Salasin, December 2011